I’d like to share my story, as I think the more LGBTQ+ voices that are heard, the less alone I hope people feel if they go through the more difficult times of a gay parenting journey.
When I talk about my situation to other parents at groups, it sometimes feels like they don’t quite know what to say and often it is easier not to go into details. This then can make it feel more isolating and that you don’t have things in common with ‘normal’ parents, especially mothers.
As time has gone on, it has helped me to slowly start being more open about my situation and learning to be proud of who I am as a mother to my little boy. Just realising that there are lots of different types of families out there is very reassuring- there is no ‘perfect’ family!
When I’m with my son, I love planning nice things to do; either going to groups or special times just the two of us. These don’t have to be extravagant and expensive- it’s lovely going on little coffee and cake dates together and exploring our local area. It really helps me when I’m not with him to think of what we can do when I next see him. I’ve even started writing a book for young children in LGBTQ families!
There are more and more LGBTQ+ support networks on social media and communities like ‘queer parenting’ and ‘Bristol queer parents’ are invaluable platforms to help you feel you’re not alone.
I really hope that sharing my experience might encourage other parents in similar situations to reach out and share their stories. The biggest think I’ve learnt is that there are so many ways to raise a loving family and they are all equally as important as each other!