We spoke to a variety of very helpful people who discussed the role of a Foster parent and realities and it wasn’t long before they put us in touch with a social worker to begin our application process. I was a bit worried in the beginning about how we would be received as a same sex couple. We live in a small town in which there isn’t a lot of LGBTQ+ people so I was unsure how much involvement a social worker would have with our community and if they would feel comfortable with us.
However, my concerns were very quickly laid to rest when we met our assessing social worker. She was absolutely incredible and I could not have imagined a better person to guide us on the beginning of our journey than her. She made us feel so comfortable and reassured any concerns we had and directed us to any further knowledge we needed to become capable Foster parents.
We had read a lot of gruelling reports about the assessment process. It is very detailed in which they need to know your complete life story and talk to your friends and family to get to know what you are like as a person. However, with our social worker the process was kind of like making a new friend in which you slowly let them know about your life and how you came to be the person you are today. There was a lot of laughter, learning and homework, sometimes it would be difficult to manage all of the things that needed to be done on top of the responsibilities you already have in your life. One element Emma and I particularly enjoyed was that the process inspired a lot of deeper conversation between us about everything; our lives, our attachment styles, our traumas, our conversation styles, our stress management, our boundaries and a lot regarding how we would want to guide children in our home. I do think the assessment process was incredible in helping us understand one another better and enhancing our communication.