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Giving Gifts to New and Expectant Families
Gift giving to expecting families can be a bit daunting. There are many products that exist that do a really good job at convincing us that raising a child is impossible without it! However, the truth of the matter is that there is one time-tested gift that is commonly renowned for making the transition into parenthood easier, and that is support.
Ace-ing Life
For as long as I can remember, I felt out of step with the world around me. I didn’t know what it was at first, and I didn’t have the language to explain it. But from a young age, I noticed that there was something different about the way people around me talked about...
Four parents and me
Thank you for giving me this space to talk about my special family. I was adopted when I was 4 by my two mums, A and M. They had tried many times to conceive but A had PCOS and other gynaecological issues and M was born without a uterus. When I first met A and...
My experience as a non-binary millennial adoptee.
TW: Mention of various traumas I was taken away from my birth mother within minutes of entering this world. She was a lesbian, a survivor of sexual violence and a heroin addict. These things were not unconnected. I was passed around my mum’s family until I was...
Sharing my story this Black Maternal Mental Health Week
When I became pregnant, I felt an overwhelming mix of emotions—excitement, fear, joy, and trepidation. As a Black queer woman, I knew my experience of motherhood would be a journey, but I didn’t realise just how much it would test me in ways I could never have...
Bereaved mother turns heartbreak into legacy of love, with new book to support grieving parents
BEREAVED mother and TV personality Kiki Deville has written her debut novel aimed at tackling the stigma around talking about child loss. What Not to Say: A practical guide to supporting bereaved parents is aimed at the friends and family of people who have...
South Asian Heritage Month – Free to be me
18 July to 17 August is South Asian Heritage Month. This year’s theme is “Free to be me”. As I sit down to write my thoughts, I am filled with all sorts of emotions. My journey as a parent in the South Asian LGBTQ+ community has been both challenging and rewarding....
Chaos from the beginning
I met My Girl in 2012 and we were instantly best friends but this friendship grew very deep very quickly. We moved from my home in Yorkshire to her home in Merseyside in 2013 following homophobia in the workplace but this move made us stronger than ever. We spoke of...
A Little (person) Goes a Long Way
Hey there, beautiful souls! Welcome to my Little corner of the internet. My name is M, and I wanted to share a bit of my journey with you.The path to parenthood is an intimate and deeply personal one, filled with joy and challenges. For my wife A and me, this journey...
My Journey as a Trans Man Giving Birth
EXTREME TRIGGER WARNING I knew that the journey to parenthood would be challenging, especially as a transgender man. However, I did not expect what I went through. Bringing a life into this world should be a time of joy, but for me, it became a battleground of...
As a trans guy, I almost made peace with the fact that I could never have children
I was about six when I knew I was trans. I spoke to my mum about it but she didn't accept it she told me I was being silly and of course I was a girl look at how pretty I was. I was very confused and hurt by the things that she said to me but I decided she must be...
Pride and Prejudice: experiences of an LGBT midwife
I would like to preface this article by stating that the views expressed in this article are completely based on my own opinions and experiences. These cannot be held as a representative of the entire LGBT+ midwifery community, of which we admittedly know very little...
People get angry that they don’t know the genital configurations of our children.
My husband and I are parents to three wonderful young humans.My husband and I are parents to three wonderful young humans. We are both cisgender, heterosexual people who had never really spent much time wondering about the sex of our children and how we would go on...
I’m pregnant! And I also happen to be a man.
I'm pregnant! And I also happen to be a man. I'm pregnant! And I also happen to be a man. People seem to find this interesting, so I thought I would share a little bit about my journey, which in some ways has been very unique and in others has really been no...
Inducing Lactation with Domperidone – an experiment
Induction of lactation has always piqued my interestSomething that has always piqued my interest is induction of lactation. Over the years, I had looked at the information available and what I have found is confusing at best and frightening at worst. There are many...
Inclusive loss support
My wife and I had chatted extensively about creating our family. We were both going to do reciprocal IVF. What that means is that one of my eggs would be removed from my body, fertilised and put into my wife’s uterus and vice versa. We had done lots of research and we...
Our journey to our girls
I always knew I wanted to be a mummaI am J, living in South West England with my wife N and our 2 beautiful girls.I always knew I wanted to be a mumma, we began our fertility journey in 2015 with a visit to our local fertility clinic's open evening, it was mind...
As a pregnant trans man
I didn’t intend on being a pregnant trans man. There are a lot of false narratives out there about trans folk and our fertility or lack thereof. When I started testosterone, I was told by my doctor that I would be infertile after the first dose.
I am a non-resident parent to my son – there is no ‘perfect’ family
I’d like to share my story, as I think the more LGBTQ+ voices that are heard, the less alone I hope people feel if they go through the more difficult times of a gay parenting journey. I am a non-resident parent to my son who is almost 3 and it has been a turbulent...
I can’t help but feel quite bitter about the new IVF support for same sex couples.
My wife and I were high school sweethearts. We were both educated under the thumb of Section 28 and we both endured homophobic abuse. We knew that we wanted to get married and have children but we couldn’t see a future where that would be possible. We fought through so much to be together and figured that fight would keep us together no matter what.
Nikolai’s Story as an intersex, transgender birthing parent
TW: Discussion of CSA, miscarriage, "corrective surgery", adoption I didn’t know I was born intersex until after I had my first child My first pregnancy was when I was 14, to a 25 year old, which ended in a miscarriage. From then until I was 17, let’s just say I got...